Posted on February 20th, 2011 @ 10:43 am

Have you ever been this tired because I am everyday?

I thought this was cute and showed how I feel well. This is another reason why I never have time to write. I hope this will change soon.

Single Motherhood
Posted on September 25th, 2010 @ 9:58 pm

I have been MIA for a little bit because I have entered into a new chapter in my life. I have started my year of single motherhood. My husband went back to school for his masters. He now works full time and goes to school full time. Therefore, this has put me into single motherhood for a year.

As we get further into the year, my husband is spending more and more of his home time studying or working on his side jobs (like work and school full time wasn’t enough) than with his family. It is a hard change to go from having my husband home full time, even with him working at home, to only seeing him 2 days a week.

I am becoming more and more like a single mom and getting more and more tired everyday. My tiredness is the reason that I have not been writing as often. I only get two hours to myself every night and when it comes down to it, I just don’t want to be writing, thinking, or doing anything during that time, which isn’t possible because than I have to pick up the house.

This single motherhood is so hard. Ever since I had a child, I have had an immense respect/appreciate for any single parent because I knew how hard parenting is and to do it alone would be so hard. I think single parents are seriously the strongest people ever. It is hard to do every aspect of parenting and to go go go all day long until 8 or 9 pm. I am starting to feel very tired. I feel like my eyes are so heavy every day. I have been getting worse with my patience and my mood. I hate how I am becoming, and yet, I am too tired to fix it. I swear, us woman are way too hard on ourselves. Hopefully my body will adapt to this change, just like it did with a new baby.

Through all this tiredness, I am even more so thankful for having a partner to relieve some of the parenting here and there. And I am so grateful for all the hard work that my husband does. We just want to be appreciated/acknowledged from our husbands.

I have always been one of those women who is definitely not okay with being a single married parent. As in, doing all the parenting, housework, etc alone even though I am married. Now, of course, there are those situations where you may have to be, but I know so many women who do EVERYTHING and their husband just gets a free ride and can just choose when they feel like being a parent or husband. I am not okay with this. I am definitely all about women power and not the old fashioned chauvinistic ways of the women doing everything.

I know that the men work hard earning the income (in most cases) and they should. But why is that an excuse for them to not have to help out with ANYTHING? Why is what they do all day harder, more tiring, more important, etc than a woman’s day? It is not! I cannot stand when I hear a women (usually older one’s) say that it is our womanly duty to have the house clean, kids clean, dinner on the table when the man comes home. NO, it is not! Is it nice? Yes. Do we try hard to have a nice home for them and to be a great wife/mom? Yes. But no matter what, it should NEVER be expected from a man to expect their wife to do everything and while they do nothing around the house including parenting in return. I get so mad when I see my friends living in a home like this. I so badly just want to shake them and say “tell your husband no.” Put your foot down. It breaks my heart for them and I always wonder how happy they are.

I have a husband who has known from the beginning my feelings of co-parenting being a CO thing and not a single thing. He knows it does not fly with me to be the only one taking care of the kids. I am glad that I told him my feelings on parenting early on in our relationship, so we didn’t have this problem. I am grateful that we dated for a while before getting engaged because we took time to talk about these things before the situation was raised. I hope if you are a woman living a single married parent life right now, that you will find strength and be able to put your foot down and let your husband know that things are going to change. When TWO people choose to have a child, it takes TWO people to create that child, and it takes TWO people to parent. It doesn’t all of the sudden only take one. If you take on that responsibility then you are just as reliable as the woman is. There are no free passes to parenting.

Another thing that I have learned in my single motherhood year, is that it is so important to get some time for yourself. I actually learned this right after I had my child, but it has been reiterated lately as I am getting further into this year. I don’t have a chance to go to the doctors, get my hair done, get the car fixed, or do things alone because I don’t have my husband home or my family around to watch my child. I feel like I have exhausted my favors of my friends to watch my child because I have to use them when I don’t have my babysitters for work (not that they said that, but I just feel bad). I definitely don’t feel like I can ask a friend to watch my child so that I can have a break. They need a break, just as much as I do. Every woman does. So, I don’t get a break.

I went on a girls night out tonight, for the first time in awhile, and it was so nice and so needed. When I got home, DH and I had a talk about some things that needed to change so that I can get a break at least one night or day. I am not even asking to not have my child around when I do so, but just for him to take a break from school/work and to take on the parenting for that time.

By writing this, I am not asking for a pity party or for handouts of babysitters. I just needed to get it out there and show my respect for single parents. I will get through it, of course. And I am lucky enough to only have to do it for a year, when there are so many others who have to do it for years and years or maybe forever. I applaud you.

London – Thursdays Top 5
Posted on September 23rd, 2010 @ 8:57 pm

1. $799 — London: 6 Nights in a 4-Star Hotel incl. Flights
Source: Virgin Vacations

2. $999 — Athens & Greek Islands Cruise Getaway incl. Flights
Source: Gate 1 Travel

3. $1959 — South America: 13-Night, 4-Country Tour incl. Air
Source: LatinAmerica4Less.com

4. $83 — Upscale Myrtle Beach 1-Bedroom Condo, 35% OFF
Source: North Beach Plantation

5. $149 — Arizona All-Suite Resort plus $50 Credit (Reg. $299)
Source: Arizona Grand Resort

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Puerto Rico – Thursdays Top 5
Posted on September 16th, 2010 @ 8:54 pm

1. $369 — Puerto Rico Marriott Getaway incl. $200 Credit & Air
Source: CheapCaribbean.com

2. $999 — Rome, Florence & Venice: 9 Nights incl. Air
Source: go-today.com

3. $1299 — Upscale Kuala Lumpur Package incl. Air & Tour
Source: Tourism Malaysia

4. $342+: Save 10% Off* Weeklong Vacation Rentals in Florida
Source: Endless Vacation Rentals

5. $599 – 6 Nt Ireland 3-City Tour incl. 4* hotels, air, car & daily breakfast
Source: Sceptre Tours

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Review – Lindon Aquatics Center
Posted on September 15th, 2010 @ 8:39 pm

This is really late to be writing about this since the swim season is closed, but everyone in Utah needs to know about this pool for next year.

We finally went to the Lindon Pool this summer and were amazed! What an awesome recreation pool. It only costs $5 for non-residents adults and there is so much to do there. They have a big lazy river, just like the one’s at a water park. They have a large slide that you can take your child down on. They have a kid pool that has a pirate ship with two little slides (my child loved that), they have another shallow pool with a waterfall. There is a dive pool, and my husbands fav., the flowrider. You only have to pay $10 for a whole day use of the flowrider, which is a screaming deal. There are a lot of grass areas and a snack bar. You could spend all day at this pool.

Everyone needs to check this pool out!

Here are some pics. They aren’t the best for showing you what it looks like but it gives you an idea.

The tower with the slide and waterfall. (BTW, I blurred out people I didn't know).

The slide

Playing in the pirate ship

In the shallow pool

The lazy river

Here are the pics from their website:

An ariel view

The pirate ship

Lazy river


P.S. That was my niece in the pics with us.

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Madrid – Thursdays Top 5
Posted on September 9th, 2010 @ 9:36 pm

1. $699 — Madrid 6-Night Vacation incl. 5-Star Hotel & Air
Source: Sceptre Tours

2. St. Thomas: Buyer’s Choice Air-Inclusive Package with Instant Credit
$400 Instant Air Credit, $200 in Dining and Activities Certificates,
$100 Tour Credit

3. $89 — Laguna Beach Oceanfront Hotel, incl. Holidays
Source: Pacific Edge Hotel

4. $96 — Top Mountain & Beach Resorts Cut by 80%; Ends 9/10
Source: RockResorts

5. $209 — NYC Boutique Hotel incl. Holidays (Regularly $469)
Source: Hotel Mela

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Flip Video
Posted on September 6th, 2010 @ 9:12 pm

I got the Flip video camera for my hubby for Father’s Day and it is seriously my favorite electronic ever. What an amazing creation. I love that it is so small it can fit in my pocket and easily in my purse. I always have it on me because of the size. It is hi-def, which is great. I love that you don’t need to find your cable to plug it into the computer. I love that you can easily create a video with your clips and email any video clip to anyone. You can also just make your video a snapshot. It is such an easy camera and program. I highly recommend this product to everyone. You cannot go wrong with this purchase.

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Croatia – Thursdays Top 5
Posted on September 2nd, 2010 @ 8:17 pm

1. $1299 — Croatia & Slovenia 5-City Package: 9 Nights & Air
Source: Gate 1 Travel

2. $199 — Caribbean 6-Night Cruise to Costa Rica & Panama
Source: Royal Caribbean

3. $1896 — Chile 3-City Vacation: 7 Nights incl. Airfare
Source: LatinAmerica4Less.com

4. $49 — Myrtle Beach Family-Friendly Resort incl. Breakfast
Source: Coral Beach Resort

5. $45 — Las Vegas Condo on The Strip incl. Weekends
Source: CondoDirect.com

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Review – Draper’s Incredible Pizza Co.
Posted on August 31st, 2010 @ 8:55 pm

A few months back my family and friends decided to use our coupons to a new restaurant that opened up called Draper’s Incredible Pizza Co.

This restaurant is Crazy!!! Crazy with happiness and fun!

You pay for an all you can eat buffet and game tokens. The food was fine. Pretty much what you would expect from a place like this. My husband loved that it was an all you can eat and they had a good variety of everything, not just pizza. They had 4 different rooms to eat in, themed differently.

Every hour/half-hour, I’m not sure how often, they have a dance hour where they blast the music and get everyone to dance with them in the walkway. It was really fun and the kids LOVE it! I love how much fun the employees have there. They also have games constantly going like hula hoop contests, etc, where you win fun prizes.

Then, when you enter into their game room, there are the cheapest arcade games (as in cost, not quality), mini golf and bowling, go karts, bumper cars, a toddler area, and more. I think this area is great whether you are with kids or just adults. We did have a lot of issues with the kids balls getting stuck in the bowling area, but the employees were really good at fixing the situation and re-starting our time.

It was a lot of fun. We all had a great time. We will definitely be going back.

The atmosphere is great. We actually told all our friends about this place and are taking them all there this month. This restaurant is a franchise, so you should see if one is located by you.

The mini bowling area

In the toddler area

A little kid car track

The arcades

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1 year – TTC
Posted on August 29th, 2010 @ 8:45 pm

Where is the worst place to go if you are Trying To Conceive?

think about it…..Do you know yet?

The OB/GYN!!! Yep, that is where I spent my time on our 1 year mark. I was literally the ONLY girl in there NOT pregnant. Talk about a slap in the face. I felt like the giant elephant in the room. I was aware of what it was going to be like but at previous offices there would be at least a couple of other girls not pregnant, but this office there wasn’t even one.

This week marked 1 year for trying to conceive. I really cannot believe it. I never thought we would have been trying for a year for the 2nd child.

Why should I? We figured out my diagnosis the first time around and how to fix it, so why should I think things would be so different this time?

I really thought it would take a couple of months to figure out the right dosage and then we would be pregnant. I still can’t get over it. My husband said it didn’t feel like a year to him. I thought, it did but it didn’t at the same time. I definitely think having a child already has really helped make the time go by quicker and I am more distracted.

I had my first judgmental experience last month. It was actually from my own uncle. I haven’t seen him since my wedding, so for 7 years. He was asking me how many kids I had. I told him and he goes “and you ONLY have 1 kid after 7 years?!” I wish you could hear his tone of voice. It was the most judging tone ever. I tried to write it out in a way you would read it like the way it sounded.

What I said in response to him was “well, it isn’t a lack of trying.” And then he says “you know, they have things that can help with that now.” And I said, “yeah, I know, I have tried them and they aren’t working.” That was that. I really could not believe that my first judgmental comment came from my own family.

Later, when I was driving home with my mom, I mentioned how I couldn’t believe how judging he was and she said she was so proud of the way I handled it and that my aunt (not his wife) felt bad for how rude he was. I am sure people judge us when they see my family and how old my son is, but no one has actually said anything to me about it yet. I think this is just the beginning of what I am going to hear the older my son keeps getting.

Another thing that is hard for me, is that in these last few weeks my son has took on a imaginary brother named Elmo. Out of nowhere, he will go, “I have to go get my brother mom.” Then he goes to the front door, opens it, invites his brother inside, and then brings him over to me to give him a kiss. After that he plays with him. Even though this is cute, it breaks my hear at the same time. It is so sad that he wants a sibling and has to play with a imaginary one. I mean really? One more thing to feel so guilty/sad over.

I feel like now, I need to make up for his lack of a sibling by taking him on trips/to new places/to do as much as possible. It is the way I feel like I can make up for my guilt. I know I shouldn’t feel guilty but I do because he doesn’t understand why he doesn’t have a sibling. It doesn’t help that almost every friend/family member either has a sibling or will be having a sibling in a few months and he doesn’t. He doesn’t know the circumstances. At least he hasn’t asked why yet. I’m sure that will come next year.

I don’t really have another plan for what we are going to do to TTC. I did start a diet and I hope I will lose those last 10 pounds from my last pregnancy and in hopes that it will help me to ovulate. Besides that, I am at a stand still. I guess being at a stand still has finally put me in a spot where I don’t really feel like talking about it as much. I still appreciate people asking me how I am doing and caring about my feelings, but I feel like I have nothing good to say right now. I don’t have any hopeful thing to look forward to right now for this. Therefore, I have stopped writing much about it. What is left to say? Not much. Only negative comments, so I might as well not say anything at all.

This is where we are at right now. Please don’t feel like you cannot talk to me about this because that is not the case. I just don’t have anything to bring up about it right now. I am trying not to think about much and having my husband away in school all the time now makes it extra hard to conceive. So we will see what this next year for TTC will bring.


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